Woman Says Her Boyfriend’s Parents and Siblings Are Furious She Didn’t Tell Them She Was Pregnant Sooner

A couple’s joyful pregnancy announcement took a dramatic turn after the boyfriend’s family reacted negatively to the news.

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, a 30-year-old woman explained that she and her 31-year-old boyfriend had discovered her pregnancy under stressful circumstances.

“We found out in the hospital I was pregnant and possibly miscarrying,” she wrote. “I went on to have a horrible pregnancy of feeling sick and not knowing if this baby would make it.”

Fortunately, her condition improved. “Thankfully, now, the baby is in the clear and we just received gender news,” she added. “My sister decided to do a gender reveal to cheer us up and look forward to the baby. We decided to send this video to our families.”

However, the couple didn’t expect the backlash that followed.

“I got nasty texts from my boyfriend’s sisters saying we were in the wrong for not telling them sooner and that was their baby too — and I quote, ‘That’s our blood and our baby as much as yours,’ ” she recalled.

Her boyfriend’s mother was also upset, telling them she felt “robbed of her moment of finding out she’s going to be a grandma.”

The woman said her partner was deeply frustrated by his family’s reaction, explaining that they had “no idea what we have gone through these past few weeks.” The couple even began to regret sharing their news.

Wondering if she’d mishandled the timing of their announcement, the woman asked Reddit users: “Am I the a—— for not telling my future in-laws about our pregnancy sooner?”

One commenter reassured her: “You DID tell them about your pregnancy. You just TOLD them. You literally JUST gave your mother-in-law her moment of finding out she’s going to be a grandma!”

That user continued, “Shut down that nonsense about it being ‘their baby too.’ It’s not their baby. It’s your baby. Make that clear now, even if it causes drama.”

Another person added, “So the sister got upset because your sister knew and she didn’t. Then everyone got in their feelings about it — completely ignoring the horrific medical emergency of a very private nature. I’m sorry, momma. You and your boyfriend have been through a lot. Congratulations on your healthy baby. No, NTA.”

A grandmother also chimed in with a more nuanced take: “I think you did nothing wrong and their reaction was over the top, but I understand a certain level of hurt here. Your sister was told early enough to do a gender reveal. The way you told your boyfriend’s family made it clear they weren’t among the first to know. Pregnancy can be a scary time, and you went through trauma — I don’t blame you one bit, but I can still understand their feelings.”