Woman Says Her Friend Is Bothered by Her Birthday Party Plans After Her Own Last-Minute Party Flopped: ‘She Feels Sad’

A woman preparing to celebrate her birthday shared on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum that her friend — whose own birthday gathering ended up with very few attendees — is upset about her planning a party so soon afterward.

“About two weeks ago was this friend’s birthday, which didn’t go well,” she wrote of her 28-year-old friend. “She was very upset and felt like people didn’t care about her because they didn’t try to make plans with her.”

According to the post, the friend created her own problem.
“She ended up making very last-minute plans on her birthday, telling people of an 8:30 p.m. dinner reservation at 6:45 p.m., with no other notice. Because it was so late and last minute, only two people could go.”

The friend herself admitted that poor planning played a major role.

“Now, I got messages from her yesterday where she expressed to me that she is upset again, this time because I didn’t think about her or how she would feel when I invited our mutual friends to my own birthday dinner,” the woman continued.

The friend claimed she felt sad seeing more effort put into showing up for someone else’s celebration.
“She said she feels sad that these friends are putting more effort into showing up for me than her, and that I should’ve been thinking about this when I invited them.”

Feeling confused, the woman asked Reddit, “Am I the a—— for trying to timely plan my own birthday dinner and inviting people who couldn’t make her last-minute plans?”

Most commenters reassured her she did nothing wrong. One person wrote, “It’s your special day, make the plans you want, and as your friend continues to leach the joy out of everything, try to ignore her.”

Another Redditor summed it up bluntly: “Her poor planning was not your emergency.”