Woman Says Her Mom Is Annoyed She Asked Her to Help Her Move: ‘I’m at a Loss on What to Do Next’

A 27-year-old woman says she’s feeling conflicted after asking her mother for a small favor ahead of an upcoming move — and now she’s turning to Reddit to find out whether she did anything wrong.

In a post on the “Am I the A——?” forum, the woman explained that she’s preparing to move into a new apartment. Most of the planning and packing has gone smoothly, she said, except for the logistics of moving day.

She noted that she has a mild physical disability and doesn’t own a car, which means she often depends on others for transportation. “I always have to rely on the goodwill of others — something I’m pretty ashamed of,” she wrote.

According to the post, she recently asked her 47-year-old mother to help transport “two boxes” to the new place.

Her mother agreed, but with limits. The woman said her mom told her not to expect additional help beyond those two boxes, adding that she was still worn out from handling her own recent move. The original poster stressed that she hadn’t planned to ask for more than that anyway.

She reassured her mother that she only needed help getting the boxes from one place to another and didn’t need help carrying, loading, or unpacking. Still, she felt her mother remained irritated and even asked whether someone else could do it instead.

“I told my mom that I’d be willing to compensate [her] later,” she added, “but [she] has since left me on read, and now I feel like an a—— for even asking her for help.” With moving stress already piling up, she said she wasn’t sure what to do next.

At the end of her post, she asked other users whether she was in the wrong.

Many commenters felt the situation didn’t have a clear villain.

“NAH [no a—— here],” one person wrote, saying it made sense for her to ask but also understandable that her mother — having just moved herself — might not be up for more. They suggested budgeting for moving or arranging other reliable help in the future.

Another echoed that view: “NAH. You can ask, she can decline — but you need to accept her response. Moving is a big thing to ask of anyone, and really, you need to work out alternative plans.”

Others, however, thought the mother’s reaction seemed disproportionate given the small request.

“NTA. You asked for help with two boxes, not her entire weekend,” one commenter said. “You’re not wrong for needing a little support, especially with a disability.”