Woman Says Her Mother-in-Law Accused Her of Not Feeding Her Enough — Even Though Her Son Is Around Too

A woman says she’s caught in an awkward situation with her mother-in-law — and it all comes down to dinner.

Writing on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum, the daughter-in-law explained that her husband’s mother, who lives with their family while on disability, has recently started complaining that she isn’t being fed enough at home.

According to the woman, her mother-in-law is fully able to make her own food. Still, the household is busy: she, her husband and their son all have packed schedules, so she cooks dinner about four to five nights a week. On the remaining nights, they either eat out or have meals with friends. Either way, she said there’s always food available in the house for anyone who wants to eat — even if she isn’t the one cooking.

The tension flared after the couple and their son went to their favorite restaurant for dinner. When they got home, the woman said she overheard her mother-in-law on the phone complaining to her daughter that no one offered to bring her food back — or include her in their plans.

The woman said her mother-in-law went even further, calling her an a—— for not making sure she was fed, especially since she “isn’t feeling well.”

What stunned the daughter-in-law most, though, was what she didn’t hear: any mention of her husband.

“She didn’t say a word about how my husband doesn’t invite her or bring her food,” the woman wrote, pointing out that it’s uncommon for her to go out without him — meaning he’s the one not including his mother nearly all the time.

Unsure whether she’d actually done something wrong, she asked Redditors directly: “Am I the a—— for not getting my mother-in-law food?”

Most commenters sided with the woman, insisting she wasn’t at fault. Several noted how often wives get blamed in family dynamics like this — while adult sons escape criticism. Others emphasized that food is available at home and that the mother-in-law is capable of preparing something for herself.

One commenter added that if the arrangement truly isn’t working for her, she has options — including living elsewhere — and that the family’s day-to-day life shouldn’t revolve around her.