A woman says her mother-in-law has become “unbearable” since she got pregnant with her first child — and things aren’t improving.
In a Reddit post, the woman explains that she is a new mom and has been married for a few years.
“When we first got together, his mom and I had a good relationship. We even met for coffee a few times alone and used to text. Looking back, she was almost too nice, and it felt fake,” she writes. “I’m not sure what changed, but as soon as I got pregnant, something switched.”
She says her mother-in-law told her husband that “she felt like she was bothering me” and stopped putting in any effort.
“She used the excuse that it took me a few hours to text her back during pregnancy, so she never texted me again,” she adds. “I think she got upset because she didn’t get her way. She demanded to be in the delivery room and attend doctor appointments, but when I said no, she seemed upset.”
After the baby arrived, the mother-in-law has “been awful to be around” and seems to try to assert control while downplaying the woman’s role as a mom.
“She comes to our home 1-2 times a week and makes nasty comments that my husband seems to miss. She has awful energy, and I feel sick after these visits. I don’t trust her without me around because she doesn’t respect boundaries,” she says.
She doesn’t feel comfortable letting her husband take the baby to his mom’s home or leaving the house while she’s visiting.
“I asked them not to kiss the baby, and she ignored that. She’s made weird comments about my weight and looks during pregnancy, told me she’s surprised I’m doing well as a mom because I’m not as mature as my husband, and gives unsolicited advice,” she writes. “One month after the baby was born, she even came over to give me a ‘cooking lesson.'”
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“It feels like she doesn’t care about me or want a relationship with me anymore. She’s just trying to have a do-over baby,” she adds.
She has had many talks with her husband about his mom and told him she sees divorce in the future if she keeps dealing with this behavior without support.
“My husband has confronted his mom, but she cries and guilt trips him. We’re thinking about moving an hour away to reduce her visits, but I’m very angry about how I’ve been treated postpartum and her lack of respect for me as a mom,” she writes.
Other Reddit users have encouraged her to stand up for herself. One person writes: “I would never wait for my husband to grow a backbone to stand up for myself. This is your child and your home. Just call her out and tell her to leave if she acts up. You can’t keep letting things go.”
