Woman Says She ‘Hates’ Her Husband After Welcoming Baby, Asks If Other New Moms Feel the Same

Being postpartum comes with an entirely new set of emotional and physical challenges, leading one woman — and many others — to ask: “When does this go away?”

In a candid Reddit post titled “Does anyone hate their husband after having a baby?”, a mother of a 7-month-old opened up about her growing frustration and feelings of resentment toward her husband.

“He gets to work at Google every day, gets to work out every day, goes out from time to time, etc. He leaves early in the morning to work out before the baby is awake and gets home late when the baby is asleep,” she wrote.

She added that while her in-laws live abroad, they visit “way too often,” something she said has been driving her “absolutely insane.”

“They don’t help with anything when they’re here and I once saw my MIL kiss the baby on the lips,” the woman continued. “I feel like I only get validation from my friends and this pisses me off.”

The mother admitted she feels emotionally exhausted and unseen in her relationship. “I’m just so burnt out and sad that I don’t feel seen by my husband. We had a great relationship before baby but now I resent him.”

Commenters on Reddit were quick to assure her that these feelings are more common than many realize.

“Yes. I’m three years postpartum and just recently stopped hating him. No joke,” one user shared. “I hid it very well but everything he did gave me the ick and I just couldn’t. It was so, so hard, but I can confidently say I’m on the other side and in love with him again — just in time to want another baby.”

Another commenter added: “I’m sorry. This is unfortunately quite normal. My husband didn’t get it until I was incredibly blunt — I need these things, this is unfair, etc. I once said, ‘baby me, so I can baby him (our son),’ and it was a lightbulb moment for him. You need time for yourself, and he needs to respect, understand, and enforce boundaries with his own parents.”