Woman Says She Met a ‘Lovely’ New Guy — but His Home Is So ‘Filthy’ It Makes Her ‘Skin Crawl’

A woman says she’s “really” into the new man in her life — but she’s worried about his “filthy” home.

She shared her story on the “Am I Being ‘Unreasonable?’” forum on the U.K.-based site Mumsnet.com, which offers a space for people to seek advice on personal dilemmas. In her post, she described the new guy she’s been seeing as “lovely.”

“We really hit it off and have a lot in common. He treats me well and puts in a lot of effort,” she said.

However, the original poster (OP) — who admitted to having some “OCD tendencies” regarding cleanliness — recently visited his home for the first time and was “gutted.”

“It was filthy. Picture dirty, grimy and sticky,” she explained, noting that he has two dogs allowed on every piece of furniture, leaving “dog hairs everywhere.”

“The bathrooms were especially awful,” she added, mentioning that the smell of dog urine lingered throughout much of the house.

“I kept my socks on while I was there, but he was walking around barefoot and his feet were black! The back garden was a mess too […]”

The OP said she’s expected to visit his home again soon, but the thought of it makes her “skin crawl.”

He told her he’s aware of the problem and is trying to “sort it out,” but she’s unsure if he’s serious about “tackling the mess.”

“WTF do I do?” she asked, adding, “I really like this guy, and aside from this one issue, he’s great!”

Most commenters warned the OP that her new partner’s lack of cleanliness could be a major red flag and might make a long-term relationship difficult.

“You are not compatible. It is a massive issue,” one person wrote.

“Gross. You’re not compatible. He’s not a project for you to fix. This is who he is. Dump him,” added another.

“This would be a dealbreaker for me. You sound incompatible, and it would be extremely stressful,” another commenter said.

Some even suggested that his extreme lack of cleanliness could spill over into other areas of his life.

“You say ‘aside from this one issue,’ but I’d be very surprised if his laziness and very low standards don’t surface in other areas of his life and personality, too,” one wrote.