Woman Says She’s Been Ignoring Her Friend with Benefits Ever Since He Made an ‘Embarrassing’ Comment About Her Body

A woman says she is currently ignoring her longtime friend with benefits after he made a hurtful remark following a recent sexual encounter.

She shared her story on the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on Mumsnet.com, a platform where women seek advice on personal dilemmas. The poster explained that she has a male friend with whom she is “quite close.”

“We’ve been having sex on and off for a decade now,” she wrote.

She revealed that over the years, she has gained 44 pounds and is working hard to lose it, something her friend is aware of. Meanwhile, she noted, he “has lost weight” and is likely “in the best shape of his life.”

The situation escalated during a conversation about the last time they were intimate, when he reportedly said something along the lines of: “There was a point where I held on to your stomach and I thought, ‘Oh s—, that’s big.’ ”

The woman explained that she “[hung] up almost immediately” and has not spoken to him since, despite him calling her “about 20 times” that day.

“I feel very hurt, and I think what makes it worse is that I can’t speak to anyone I know about it because it’s so embarrassing,” she wrote. “Strangely, it’s made me feel very isolated and upset.”

She added, “This doesn’t mean I won’t ever speak to him again, but I’m just processing my feelings and want to know what others think.”

Reactions from the Community

Most commenters on the forum told her she should reconsider spending time with the man.

“He’s not your friend,” one person commented. “Friends don’t think that, let alone say it. He’s some guy who knows he can get sex from you.” Another wrote, “I wouldn’t ever speak to him again. I CERTAINLY wouldn’t have sex with him again. He’s an a——.”

However, some offered a more forgiving perspective, suggesting she could consider giving him another chance, at least as a friend.

“You’ve been friends with this man for a decade, and he f—– up and put his foot in his mouth; he knows and tried to reach out to fix it,” one commenter noted. “You have every right to be upset, and you probably don’t want to have sex with him again […]. But I would still meet and talk about it […]. Friends are hard to find, and people f— up. That’s called being human.”