Woman Says Sister Uninvited Her from Her Wedding After ‘Ruining’ It by Keeping Her Pregnancy Secret

A woman turned to Reddit for advice after a painful rift with her sister, who accused her of sabotaging her wedding by waiting to share her pregnancy news.

In her post, the woman explained that the pregnancy was both “unexpected and unplanned,” and that she’d struggled to emotionally process it because of “a history of multiple losses.” Those experiences made her extremely cautious about telling anyone too early.

“I waited til 12 weeks to share the news with anyone other than my mom and partner,” she wrote, noting that her first trimester had been complicated by “ongoing bleeding and threatened miscarriage.” She finally told her sister when they saw each other in person at 12 weeks and 6 days — but instead of excitement, she was met with anger.

Her sister, a bride whose wedding was scheduled for two weeks before the baby’s due date, accused her of intentionally keeping the news from her.

According to the poster, the bride said that waiting so long was a form of sabotage, dismissing the medical and emotional reasons as “excuses” and insisting her sister had “purposely didn’t tell her because I didn’t want to come in the first place.”

Things escalated when the bride declared that her sister was no longer invited to the wedding. “She then had uninvited me (and my children who were to be in the wedding) from the wedding saying it would be too stressful to have someone 9 months pregnant there and take away from the special day,” the woman wrote.

The bride went on to say the situation had caused “irreparable” damage and asked for distance “for the foreseeable future.”

She also claimed she would have changed the wedding date if she’d known about the pregnancy earlier, insisting she cared about having her sister there. But the poster said she never realized that was even an option. “I wasn’t aware that changing the date/venue was an option and I didn’t know her timeline on sending those,” she explained. Her sister dismissed that explanation as yet another “excuse.”

Feeling blindsided and unsure if she’d truly done something wrong, the woman asked Reddit whether she deserved such harsh treatment.

Commenters overwhelmingly took her side. One wrote, “NTA Wtf is wrong with your sister? I mean: Yeah if changing the date would have been an option it’s inconvenient that you didn’t tell her. But nothing more. An inconvenience.”

That same commenter highlighted the poster’s medical history and the emotional weight of the situation, adding, “To say you’re making ‘excuses’ is absolute bull. Your sister seems to have no empathy. She’s totally overreacting.”

Another user echoed that sentiment, telling her, “NTA. She is gaslighting you. YOUR pregnancy [affects] her wedding in NO WAY.” They suggested the real issue might be that, “people would pay attention to you instead of her, IN HER EYES.”

That commenter encouraged the woman to prioritize her own wellbeing: “Go NC for a bit until you feel comfortable speaking with her again.”