Woman Tells Friend Not to Come on Girls’ Trip Because She Has a Smaller Budget, Can’t Do ‘All the Activities’

A woman has sparked debate online after admitting she told one of her friends not to join a planned group trip because of money issues.

In a post shared on Reddit, the anonymous woman explained, “We’re just in the early stages of planning this trip now, but it’s supposed to be an almost week-long girls’ trip.”

She said there would be six women going, but one friend — referred to as “B” — doesn’t have the same budget as the rest. “She can afford the flight and hotel room, so it’s not like she literally can’t pay for the actual trip itself,” the woman wrote. “But because her overall budget is lower than everyone else’s, she’s not going to be able to afford all the activities I, and the rest of the group, want to do.”

The woman said she hinted to her friend that “maybe she should reevaluate going because of money concerns,” but her friend brushed it off.

“Based on past experience, I know once we get there she’s going to start saying stuff like, ‘Omg guys, the restaurant is so expensive, what if we just went to that cute food truck we drove past earlier,’” the post continued. “Even though the food truck may have good food, sometimes you just want to go to a fancy dinner.”

Eventually, she told her friend directly, which caused an argument. “She got mad because she technically can pay for it — the flights and hotel — but I feel like she’s going to drag the rest of us down by making us only do things she can afford,” the woman wrote.

Now, she’s asking the internet for advice on what to do.

Some Reddit users suggested compromise. One commenter wrote, “You need to get together with friends and maybe discuss it. This is why I only travel with certain friends. We’re all going to have to compromise at some point, but not all the time. It would be unfair to both her and the rest of the group. Like, you don’t need to go to expensive places every single time. You guys need to decide what you are willing to give up and do.”

Others said the situation is simply “uncomfortable.” Another user shared, “Income disparity in group settings is uncomfortable. My husband and his friends make substantially more money than I do, and when they want to do expensive things, I tend to excuse myself because I can’t contribute equally.”