A woman took to Reddit to share her mixed feelings after learning her best friend scheduled a destination wedding for the same day as her birthday — and never brought it up.
In her post, the 26-year-old said she was thrilled to be part of the wedding and had looked forward to the event. But when the invitation arrived, she was caught off guard: the Las Vegas ceremony was set for her birthday.
“I know she knows it’s my birthday, but she hasn’t acknowledged it at all — not even once,” she wrote. “Every time it’s mentioned, I just smile and try to be supportive, but honestly, I think it’s really weird.”
The woman said she’s now unsure how to approach the situation, especially since the venue is already booked and guests have started arranging travel.
“I feel like I should say something,” she admitted, “but I don’t even know how to bring it up now without making it awkward.”
Commenters on the post largely felt the woman was overreacting.
“Lots of things happen on our birthdays. We’re adults. We deal with it,” one person replied bluntly.
Another pointed out that when it comes to weddings — especially destination ones — dates are often dictated by logistics like availability, pricing, and travel coordination. “Your birthday probably wasn’t even part of the decision,” they wrote.
Some commenters encouraged her to let it go and not add to the stress of planning a wedding. “Don’t make this harder on your friend,” one said. “She probably didn’t mean to overlook it.”
Others offered a more positive spin: “You now have two reasons to celebrate on your birthday! Look at it that way.”
Most agreed on one thing — birthdays are special, but not necessarily sacred. And in this case, friendship might mean putting those feelings aside and showing up to celebrate.
