Woman Un-Invites Herself to Thanksgiving After Roommate Makes Last-Minute Change to Original Plan

Holidays can be complicated, especially when you’re trying to navigate them without family around. Add in roommates, birthdays and last-minute plan changes, and things can get uncomfortable very quickly.

That’s what happened to one Reddit user who believed she had Thanksgiving all planned out — until everything shifted without her.

“I live with a few roommates,” the user explained in a recent post. “I don’t talk to my family and therefore the holidays are always harder for me.”

Because of that, in early November she asked one of her roommates if she wanted to spend Thanksgiving together, since the roommate also had no plans at the time. They agreed, decided they would split the costs, and then… never really talked about it again.

In the meantime, the Reddit user’s birthday — which falls right before Thanksgiving — came and went with only a single text message from her roommates.

“I’m not a materialistic person but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t sting that my roommates that call themselves my friends didn’t even try to do anything,” she wrote.

The situation escalated when the roommate quietly shifted the Thanksgiving plan without including her.

Instead of the intimate, shared dinner they’d originally discussed, the roommate decided to move the celebration to another house with “more people most of whom I don’t know.”

This was especially upsetting for the poster because, as she explained, “I have anxiety and at the very least need to be involved in the change of plans for me to not have a panic attack. My roommate knows this.”

Prioritizing her mental health, she ultimately told her roommate, “I’ll just do my own thing because I don’t want to deal with panic attacks when staying home would keep my peace.”

Commenters on Reddit were divided. Many said that since the plans changed without her input, she was completely justified in backing out and choosing to spend the holiday in a way that felt safe.

Others suggested she might still consider giving the new gathering a chance, pointing out that, as one person wrote, “those are potential friends — you might have fun.”