Woman Unsure Whether to ‘Dump’ Her Boyfriend After Getting Late-Night Call About His Drinking

A woman says she’s weighing a breakup after her boyfriend drank so much that he was “barely making any sense.”

She shared her situation on Mumsnet.com, a U.K.-based community forum where women ask other users for advice on all kinds of relationship issues. In a post titled “Am I being unreasonable to dump my partner after what happened last night?”, she explained that she got a call from her boyfriend’s number at around 10 p.m. the night before — but it wasn’t him on the line.

Instead, she says it was one of his colleagues, who told her she would need to come pick him up because taxis were refusing to take him due to the fact that he was covered in vomit.

When she arrived, she claims two coworkers had to help get him into her car. According to her post, he’d been drinking since 2 p.m. on an empty stomach and was in extremely bad shape.

On the drive back, she said he was incoherent and made several lewd comments. She brought him to her home and set him up on the sofa to sleep it off. But about two hours later, she heard a loud crash — and says she found he had broken her coffee table and urinated in the corner of her living room.

By the next afternoon, she said he had sobered up and insisted he had been spiked, adding that he planned to report it to the police. She wasn’t convinced, though, and asked other users whether there was any real chance that could be true. While she said she’d never seen him that intoxicated before, she also admitted there had been “minor flags” with his drinking in the past.

Responses were divided on whether ending the relationship would be justified.

Some commenters argued that if the relationship is otherwise strong and the incident truly was a one-off, breaking up would be an overreaction. Others said the behavior — especially the property damage and urinating in the home — would be a hard line for them, regardless of whether it was the first time.

A few suggested the decision depends on context: if this was an isolated, out-of-character disaster followed by genuine accountability and change, it might be repairable. But if it fits into a wider pattern of unsafe or selfish behavior, they said walking away would make sense.