A woman says she fears her “marriage is imploding” after her husband ignored her feelings about a major purchase.
On Reddit, the 29-year-old explained that she and her husband, 32, have “been together for 7 years and married for almost 1.”
A few months ago, her husband said he wanted to buy an $80,000 sports car. She told him it wasn’t the right time since they were planning to start a family soon and needed to save for future expenses like a larger home.
At first, he agreed to wait. But soon after, he suggested they take out a line of credit from their mortgage “just in case.” Instead of saving it, he used the money to buy the car.
“In a couple weeks he is going on a day trip to another province to go see the car and sign the paperwork,” she wrote.
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She asked if she could join him since she enjoys road trips and wanted to make the experience positive. But he picked a weekend when she had to work a night shift, making it nearly impossible for her to come.
Instead, her mother-in-law quickly offered to take her place.
The woman explained that her mother-in-law has a history of interfering in their marriage. “In the past my MIL has attempted to break us up and I feel like she wants a front row seat to the demise of our marriage,” she said.
Now, she’s unsure whether she’s overreacting or justified in being upset. Her husband, who is an only child and has no relationship with his father, told her everything is fine.
“I am so worried this is the beginning of the end of our marriage,” she admitted. “We love each other but it is concerning to me how little he listens to me. In his defense he is otherwise very smart with his/our money and barely spends, so maybe I should just be ok with this… I need an outside opinion.”
Commenters on Reddit strongly sided with her. Many called her husband’s actions a “huge red flag” and said the problem was not just the mother-in-law but the husband himself.
“This isn’t just a bad move, it’s financial betrayal,” one user wrote. “Blaming the MIL is deflecting from the real issue: he straight-up ignored her, spent a huge chunk of money, and is acting shady. That’s not love or respect—that’s a 🚩 waving hard.”
Another added: “Taking equity from your house to buy a sports car you didn’t agree to is divorce-worthy imo. Get your personal finances/documents in order and don’t start trying for a baby.”
A third person wrote: “You should NOT be okay with this. What a horrifying extravagance on a vanity purchase to please himself. And Mommy is on board because she wants her baby boy to be happy. You’re the third person in this marriage, unfortunately.”
