Pregnant Woman Says In-Laws ‘Greeted My Baby Bump Instead of Me’ When Meeting for the First Time

A woman says her first meeting with her in-laws might also be her last after a series of uncomfortable interactions left her feeling disrespected and sidelined.

In a post shared on Reddit, she explains that the meeting occurred shortly after she discovered she was pregnant. From the very beginning, she says things felt off.

“Both FIL and MIL greeted my baby bump instead of me when we arrived, and it was all downhill from there,” she wrote.

According to her post, her in-laws quickly shifted the conversation to baby names—pressuring the couple to reveal their choices (which they declined), strongly hinting that they name the baby after her mother-in-law, and orchestrating the weekend schedule so thoroughly that the couple couldn’t visit other nearby relatives.

The woman also described an incident where her mother-in-law had a meltdown over the topic of a baby shower.

“She asked if I was having one, I said no, which is true,” she recalled. “She seemed to accept this at the time, but the next morning she declared my husband had told her that we would instead be doing a collection for the baby. He said no he hadn’t, I said no we weren’t doing that, she lost her cool (with a lot more back and forth in between, and increasing anger on her side).”

Reflecting on the visit, the woman wrote: “The whole visit made me sad because while I expected the entitlement and weird need for control, I wasn’t expecting them to both prove me right quite so wholeheartedly or so soon.”

She added that they’ve decided there will be no more visits before the baby arrives. “Them coming to stay here or showing up unannounced is thankfully incredibly unlikely,” she wrote. For now, she says she’ll be putting them on an “info diet” and directing all communication through her husband.

Others commenting on the Reddit thread viewed the experience as a textbook example of overbearing in-laws.

“You’re not ‘evil,’ you’re just inconvenient to their fantasy of being third parents,” one commenter said. “Let them sulk, that’s their hobby. Yours is protecting your baby. You already know placating just invites more entitlement.”