Man Reports Girlfriend to Her Manager for Not Wearing a Bra at Work

A teenager went to Reddit for advice after getting into an argument with her boyfriend about her choice not to wear a bra at work or in public.

In her post, which quickly gained attention online, she explained that she dislikes bras and also has a medical condition that makes them painful.

“I (18f) don’t wear bras,” she wrote. “I don’t own any either. Because of my cup size, I don’t need them for support, and I find them uncomfortable.”

She said she has hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos, a genetic connective tissue disorder that causes joint hypermobility, stretchy skin, and fragile tissue, according to the Ehlers-Danlos Society.

Because of this condition, bras make her ribs hurt. For her, skipping a bra isn’t about making a statement — it’s simply about comfort and managing her health.

She also said most people don’t even notice. “It’s usually not too obvious I don’t wear a bra unless you’re looking really close,” she explained.

Her boyfriend, however, doesn’t agree. At 25, he has been with her since high school, and they both work at the same souvenir store. She said he also attends a college near her small town and doesn’t have many job options in the summer.

“My boyfriend thinks it’s indecent of me and has bought me bras on more than one occasion, demanding I wear them so I don’t look ‘inappropriate,’” she wrote.

She was especially confused because she feels her clothing is modest. The conflict escalated when she wore a white tank top to work on a hot day. “It wasn’t sheer, it didn’t show anything but my arms and shoulders,” she said. The only visible detail was a “small bump” of her nipples if someone looked very closely.

Her boyfriend became angry. “He said I was being inappropriately sexual in public, and I said I didn’t understand,” she shared. “He wears tank tops where his nipples are more noticeable, so why can’t I wear one too?”

Instead of dropping the issue, he went to their manager. The teen recalled, “Our manager, a nice older woman, didn’t care and said it was his issue, not mine. But I still feel guilty.”

She admitted she was worried about how others might see her. “I’m worried I might be making everyone uncomfortable because of my body,” she wrote.

At the time of her post, her boyfriend hadn’t spoken to her yet. In an edit, she clarified that she didn’t want strangers to attack her relationship. “I do not appreciate the aggressive comments about him. He is very kind, and my parents love him,” she added.

She said her question was about this specific conflict, not about their entire relationship.

Still, many Reddit users raised concerns beyond the bra debate, pointing to their seven-year age gap. “There’s no reason someone his age should be dating anyone who is in high school,” one commenter wrote. Another added, “He sounds a bit controlling. Find another boyfriend.”

In another edit, the teen explained that she does not live in the United States and that the “age of consent” in her country is 15. She also made clear that they were not together before she was of age.

In her final update, she revealed that she broke up with her boyfriend after bringing up the issue again.