Woman Gave Money to Her Boyfriend’s Kids and Now His Ex Is Furious: ‘Not Sure If I’m in the Wrong’

A woman says she recently began giving her boyfriend’s daughters a weekly allowance — and their mother is furious about it.

She shared her experience on the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet.com, a space where users seek advice on everyday family and relationship issues.

In her post, the woman explained that she met her boyfriend 18 months ago and that the two are “very happy.” She also mentioned having two boys, ages 10 and 13, from a previous relationship, while her boyfriend has two daughters around the same age.

According to her, she’s a “high earner” who makes considerably more than her boyfriend — something that’s never caused tension between them. “He pays his way and works hard in a job he loves — it’s a role that serves vulnerable people and he’s amazing at it,” she wrote.

She went on to say that she gives her sons about $25 a week in pocket money, and recently decided to give her boyfriend’s daughters the same amount to be fair.

However, things took a turn when the girls’ mother discovered the arrangement. She was reportedly furious, accusing the woman of “trying to buy their love” and saying the amount was “too much money for their ages.”

“She has demanded that I stop,” the woman wrote, asking other forum users whether they thought she was wrong.

Many commenters empathized with her intentions but still felt she crossed a line by giving the girls money without clearing it first.

“I think you should have checked with [their mother] via their dad before you started giving them money. It’s a bit of an overstep. It’s kind of you though,” one user commented.

Another added, “$25 a week is a lot. I think you should be respectful of her wishes and at least give less.”

A third person advised open communication: “I think you need to speak to their mom and explain your reasoning, but also be prepared to respect her wishes. If it was coming from their dad it would be different, but I’d presume then that he would have spoken to his ex about what is reasonable before giving it.”