Woman Has Concerns About Her 32-Year-Old Sister’s Boyfriend — But the Internet Thinks She Should ‘Back Off’

A woman has turned to an online forum for advice, worried that her sister might be making an unwise romantic choice.

The poster explained that her 32-year-old sister — described as beautiful and privately educated — recently surprised the family by revealing she’s dating a 57-year-old man. Writing on Mumsnet, the woman said her sister’s partner is professionally successful, but emphasized that the relationship isn’t financially motivated, noting that “he isn’t close to being a billionaire.”

“He’s handsome and fit. Probably was quite a catch…10 or 20 years ago,” she wrote, adding that her sister has endured a few difficult years and may simply be feeling lonely.

“My sister would never date anyone who didn’t want children, so I can only assume that’s something they’re considering,” she continued.

The poster also shared that her sister was previously engaged but called off her wedding a week before it was due to take place after discovering her fiancé’s infidelity. “I obviously know it’s my sister’s life to live,” she wrote, “but I genuinely think this relationship is a manifestation of her not being that happy.”

Seeking others’ opinions, she asked the community: “How can I help my sister?”

Many users responded that while they understood her concern, it was best not to interfere. One commenter advised, “It’s none of your business. I would hate it if my family interfered in who I choose to date. Different if she was 18 maybe and vulnerable, but 32! Surely she’s old enough now to make her own choices.”

Another challenged the poster’s assumptions, asking, “Do you think she would make better (in your opinion) choices if she were ugly and state school educated? Back off and let her live her life. You sound very judgmental.”

Others echoed that sentiment, with one writing, “I would feel the same as you, OP, but at the end of the day it’s her choice.”

A final commenter shared a personal example: “One of my best friends started a relationship in her early 30s with a man in his 60s, and they were very happy together for over ten years until his death.”