Bride Drops Best Friend from Bridesmaid Role After Finding Out She’s Pregnant

An expectant mother shared her heartbreak after her best friend decided to remove her from the bridesmaid lineup because of her pregnancy.

Posting on Reddit’s “Am I Overreacting” forum, the 25-year-old, who is 11 weeks pregnant, asked if she was wrong to feel “upset” that the 19-year-old bride had dropped her from the wedding party. The bride reportedly told her she was “scared” she wouldn’t be able to handle the duties and felt uneasy because she had “never been around someone pregnant.”

“She informed me that she didn’t want me to have to stand next to the altar or have to get a dress at eight months pregnant, and so I was no longer a bridesmaid,” the woman wrote. “Honestly, it really hurt me. I ended up crying for a while in my room after.”

The bride, who is engaged to the woman’s brother-in-law, assured her she was still wanted at the wedding and offered her an “honorary bridesmaid” role instead — allowing her to attend all the events without the formal responsibilities. Still, the mom-to-be felt crushed, explaining that being a bridesmaid was something she valued “very highly.”

“It really hurts. I don’t know if I want to help with wedding things or go to bridal party things anymore,” she admitted. “I started resenting being pregnant (still love my baby tho) because of the sickness, the unsolicited advice I constantly get, and now people assuming I can’t do things because I’m pregnant.” She also shared that she wasn’t invited to go dress shopping because the others assumed she’d be “too sick to go” during her first-trimester “morning sickness and exhaustion.”

In a follow-up comment, she added, “I’m trying not to introduce drama — it just hurts that they’re assuming things this early.”

The woman said the bride is her best friend and that she “would have picked her as [her] maid of honor” had they known each other when she got married. Now, she’s struggling with the idea of being only an “honorary bridesmaid,” which she even questions as “a real thing.”

“I was really looking forward to being a bridesmaid for my best friend,” she said. “Now I don’t know what to do. A part of me wants to push the topic and tell her I want to be a bridesmaid, but it’s her wedding and I don’t want to be one of those monster bridesmaids you hear stories about. I’m pretty stuck.”

Her husband advised her to step back from helping with the wedding altogether. Meanwhile, commenters on Reddit largely encouraged her to “give some grace” to the young bride, suggesting that the decision likely came from concern rather than cruelty.

“I think this sounds like a great compromise and she’s looking out for you,” one user wrote. “When the wedding comes, you will be full-blown pregnant and may not be physically capable of participating in some of the activities. The bride is being cautious and thoughtful. Timing just sucks sometimes — but it’s her day, not yours. Let her enjoy it.”

Another added, “The reality is you don’t know what the rest of your pregnancy will be like. You could be on bed rest or even giving birth around the wedding date. Your friend doesn’t want to rely on someone who might be MIA — she’s giving you a way to stay included without stress. Just support your friend, be the honorary bridesmaid, and go to what you can.”