A woman recently turned to Reddit for advice after finding herself in an awkward situation involving an overly bold acquaintance who wanted to borrow her entire Thanksgiving setup.
She explained that she and her husband have hosted a Friendsgiving for years, usually inviting about 20 friends. Last year, a friend of a friend asked if she and her husband could join — despite the hosts having only met them once. Wanting to be welcoming, the couple agreed.
The issue? This pair was known for always being late. They didn’t ask for the address until long after the party had started, and eventually showed up two hours late — even though they lived just minutes away. While other guests had been enjoying drinks and conversation, the latecomers arrived right as everyone was sitting down for dinner.
The real surprise came the next day. The acquaintance messaged again — not to say thank you, but to ask if she could borrow the host’s table, chairs, plates, silverware, wine glasses, and decorations for her own Friendsgiving gathering. The original poster wasn’t even invited to that event.
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The request felt like a lot to ask, especially since transporting the items would be difficult and the acquaintance didn’t have a vehicle large enough to move everything. The host politely declined, explaining that many of the items would be used at her parents’ home for the upcoming holiday.
After that, the acquaintance stopped contacting her — for an entire year.
Then, out of the blue, she resurfaced with the exact same request as if nothing had happened: she once again wanted to borrow the full Thanksgiving setup.
The poster asked Reddit whether she would be wrong to decline again, writing: “AITA for saying no last year, and WIBTA if I say no again??”
Commenters assured her she was not in the wrong. One user wrote, “If you don’t have table chairs, plates, and glasses, you cannot host. Period. Borrowing one small item or a folding table is one thing. To borrow an entire kitchen and dining room is another, unspeakably rude thing.”
Another added: “NTA — this woman is clearly just trying to use you.”
