Woman Was Asked to Host Friend’s Bridal Shower at Her House, but Not Invited to the Wedding: ‘This Is Odd’

A woman says she’s in an awkward spot after being asked to plan and host a friend’s bridal shower at her home — only to realize she may not be on the guest list for the wedding celebration.

She shared the situation on Reddit’s “Wedding” forum, explaining that her friend recently eloped abroad but is planning a New Year’s Eve reception for friends and family back home. The original poster said she attended a small girls’ night/bachelorette gathering for the bride a few months earlier and brought a gift.

Later, the maid of honor approached her with a request: help organize the bridal shower and host it at the poster’s house because she has “the space.”

But as the reception date gets closer, the woman says she still hasn’t received an invitation — something she finds unsettling given that the event is only weeks away.

“This is odd,” she wrote, asking other users, “Should I say something?”

She added that she’s now leaning toward declining the request to host the shower, since it feels strange to take on such a big role without knowing whether she’s even invited to the wedding reception.

In the replies, many commenters agreed the situation sounds off. Still, a number of people urged her not to decide immediately without first checking in politely about her invitation status.

“Normally it’s a little rude to ask if you’re invited, but in this case it’s absolutely justified,” one person wrote. They pointed out that the invite could have been lost, sent to the wrong address, or never intended for her — and if it’s the last option, asking her to host the shower is unfair.

Another commenter echoed the same advice, suggesting she confirm directly with the maid of honor or the bride before committing. They noted that hosting a shower is a major responsibility, and if she isn’t invited to the reception, stepping back would be reasonable.

Others were more direct, encouraging her to say no now to avoid getting taken advantage of. As one Redditor put it, a simple refusal is enough — especially when the favor feels one-sided.