Woman Says Her Mom Is Annoyed She Asked Her to Help Her Move: ‘I’m at a Loss on What to Do Next’

A 27-year-old woman says she’s second-guessing herself after asking her mother for a small favor ahead of an upcoming move — and sensing irritation in response.

The woman shared her situation on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum, where users seek outside opinions on personal conflicts. In her post, she explained that she’s preparing to move into a new apartment and that most of the packing is under control. The stressful part, she said, is the actual move.

“My preparations and packing have been going well, but I’m currently facing one issue: the move itself. I have a mild physical disability and have no car, so I always have to rely on the goodwill of others — something I’m pretty ashamed of,” she wrote.

Because of that, she reached out to her 47-year-old mother and asked if she could help transport two boxes.

According to the post, her mother agreed — but added a firm boundary.

“She said yes, but she told me not to expect her to move anything else (never was my plan), [and] that she herself had a hard enough time dealing with her own stuff [in her own recent move],” the woman said.

The woman responded that she only needed help moving the two boxes a short distance and wouldn’t need assistance carrying, unpacking, or handling anything beyond that. Still, she felt her mother remained annoyed and even asked whether anyone else could help instead.

“I told my mom that I’d be willing to compensate [her] later, but [she] has since left me on read, and now I feel like an a—— for even asking her for help. I’m at a loss on what to do next, since I’m already stressed out,” she added.

She ended her post by asking other users: “So AITA?”

In the comments, several people said they didn’t think either person was necessarily wrong.

“NAH [no a—— here],” one commenter wrote. “You’re desperate for help, so I can understand you asking your mom, but she’s middle-aged and just went through the hassle of moving herself recently … Going forward, I strongly suggest you budget for moving costs.”

Another echoed that sentiment, saying the woman wasn’t wrong to ask — but should also be prepared to accept a no. “Moving is a big thing to ask of anyone,” they wrote, adding that she may need to line up alternatives if help isn’t available.

Others, however, felt the mother’s reaction was excessive given the small request.

“NTA. You asked for help with two boxes, not her entire weekend … You’re not wrong for needing a little support, especially with a disability,” one person commented.