Man Tells Family His Fiancée Is ‘Too Emotional’ to Plan Wedding, So His Mom ‘Took Over’ Without Consulting the Bride

A 28-year-old bride-to-be says the wedding she was “excited” to plan has stopped feeling like hers after her fiancé’s mother decided she would be running the show.

Sharing her story on Reddit, the woman explained that she doesn’t see herself as a “Bridezilla” and had simply been looking forward to creating a day that felt special and personal for her and her future husband.

“I just wanted something ours,” she wrote.

Things changed after she and her 30-year-old fiancé argued about the guest list. According to her post, he then went to his mother and told her that his fiancée was “overwhelmed and too emotional to handle planning.”

Not long after, his mom stepped in — not as backup, the bride says, but as the new boss.

“She made group chats without me. She booked a venue I didn’t choose. She picked bridesmaid colors I hate. She told vendors to call her, not me,” the bride wrote.

When she confronted her fiancé, he defended his mother’s involvement and claimed he was just trying to “protect” her and ease the stress.

The bride said things only felt worse from there. She described her future mother-in-law repeatedly minimizing her role in her own wedding with patronizing comments.

“I wasn’t overwhelmed until now,” she wrote. His mom, she said, keeps patting her hand and saying things like, “Just show up, sweetie. Leave the decisions to people who know what they’re doing.” The bride then added, “Who is ‘people’? Her and my fiancé.”

When she told her fiancé she felt “erased” and like a “prop” in what was supposed to be the happiest day of her life, he again told her she was “overreacting.”

“I’ve gone from excited to feeling like the side character in my own wedding,” she concluded, asking Reddit users for advice on what to do next.

Commenters didn’t hold back. Many urged her to see the situation as a major red flag — not just about the wedding, but about the marriage dynamic.

“Don’t go to this wedding. It’s not yours. It’s hers,” one person wrote.

“Girl, you’re not marrying a man. You’re marrying a son,” another commenter said. “Call off the wedding until he learns the difference between partnership and parent-approved puppetry.”

A third warned that what she’s experiencing now could be a preview of the future if nothing changes: “Do not go forward with the wedding or you will spend the rest of your life being a passenger in your life driven by your husband and his mother. This is just the tip of the iceberg.”