‘Insecure’ Woman Doesn’t Want Sister-in-Law to Wear Her Mom’s Wedding Dress First Because She Worries She’ll Look Better in It

A woman is questioning whether she’s being unreasonable for not wanting her future sister-in-law to wear her mother’s wedding dress — mainly because she’s afraid her brother’s fiancée will look better in it.

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, she explained that her brother’s fiancée plans to wear the dress at one of their smaller pre-wedding events next month. The poster shared that she has “always dreamed” of walking down the aisle in her mother’s gown one day, and while that’s still possible, she worries that if her sister-in-law wears it first, it will no longer feel as special.

“I know this might sound selfish, but I also feel a bit insecure,” she wrote. “My SIL (sister-in-law) is very beautiful, and I’m worried I’ll feel less special in the gown if she’s already worn it and looked amazing in it.”

She said she told her soon-to-be sister-in-law that she “wasn’t comfortable” with the idea of her wearing the dress before she had the chance to use it herself. According to the poster, the bride-to-be brushed off those concerns and pointed out that the original plan still leaves room for the Redditor to wear the gown on her own wedding day.

The woman admitted that she knows she “shouldn’t make a big deal out of it” and even partially agrees with her mother’s view that she’s “overreacting,” but she still feels upset.

“The thing is, my SIL (sister-in-law) is already wearing her own mother’s dress for part of the celebrations,” she added. “It feels unfair that she would also wear my mom’s dress before I get the chance to.”

In the comments, many Reddit users agreed that while the poster is NTA (Not the A——) for feeling hurt, she ultimately doesn’t get to decide what happens to the gown since her mother has already agreed to lend it to her future daughter-in-law.

“It’s your mother’s dress. And she is still alive and in possession of her dress. She can lend her dress to her new daughter-in-law if she wants to,” one commenter wrote. “You can be upset about it, but it’s hers to lend as she pleases.”

Some people, however, felt that the sister-in-law was “overstepping” by insisting on wearing the dress, especially for a less important pre-wedding event, after the poster expressed discomfort. They also argued that the mother should have weighed her daughter’s feelings more carefully before giving the green light.

“Your mom is being obtuse about you wanting to wear the dress again and your SIL (sister-in-law) is stirring up trouble,” one person commented. “You’re not overreacting at all. I’d be pissed, too. And I’d ask my SIL why she did that when she knew I wanted to wear the dress. She’s counting on you just rolling over and taking it.”