Kamala Harris Offers Some Sweet and Cheeky Dating Advice, Depending on ‘What Phase You’re In’

Former Vice President Kamala Harris is offering a bit of cheeky dating advice.

On Tuesday, Dec. 23, the politician, 61, appeared on the Rich Little Brokegirls podcast to discuss her new book, 107 Days. During her conversation with host Kimberly Bizu, Harris shared guidance for single people hoping to find a partner.

“The important piece of this, though, for anyone who is single, who wants to be in a relationship, is to be kind to yourself and choose to be with someone who is kind,” she said. “That’s really important. Choose to be with someone who allows you to laugh at yourself and them.”

She went on to describe the kind of everyday compatibility she believes matters most.

“Choose to be with someone you like going to the grocery store together, taking a walk together, and doing something fancy together,” she added.

Harris also noted that relationship needs can change depending on the season of life someone is in.

“There are different phases in your life,” she said. “Depending on what phase you’re in, maybe you’re going to choose that you want to have that kind of Friday night relationship or you want that Sunday morning relationship,” she joked, laughing — prompting Bizu to laugh along.

“Sometimes they go together and sometimes…,” Bizu began, before Harris jumped in: “And sometimes you can get both, and sometimes it’s oil and water.”

She emphasized that those differences can still be perfectly fine — as long as people are clear with themselves about what they truly want.

“Be in those phases where you are having fun,” she said. “Be in those phases where you have a sense of I just want something more.”

Harris stressed the importance of being honest about what a relationship is — and whether it matches what you actually want.

“But the first step is to be honest about what you’re in,” she said. “And not try and make it something that it’s not because that usually doesn’t work out so well.”

Her comments arrive as she marks more than a decade with her husband, Doug Emhoff. The two met in 2013 after being set up on a blind date by Harris’ friend, Chrisette Hudlin, and married in August 2014 in Santa Barbara, California.

Harris has also shared that the date wasn’t entirely “blind” on her end — she previously said she looked Emhoff up online before meeting him.

In her memoir, The Truths We Hold: An American Journey, Harris recalled that Emhoff followed up quickly after their first date. “The morning after our first date, Doug emailed me with a list of his available dates for the next couple of months,” she wrote.

The email read: “I’m too old to play games or hide the ball. I really like you, and I want to see if we can make this work.”

Since then, the couple have described how they protect their relationship time, even amid demanding public roles. Emhoff has said they try to start and end their days together, focusing on their life as a couple rather than their titles.