Bride Complains She Received No Wedding Cards or Gifts from Husband’s ‘Wealthy’ Family Members: ‘It’s Very Rude’

A newlywed says she was “shocked” to discover that several of her husband’s “wealthy” relatives didn’t give the couple a single wedding card or gift.

In a post on Reddit’s “Wedding Shaming” forum, the bride explained that she and her husband were married earlier this month and described their celebration as “the best day ever.” But when they sat down afterward to go through their stack of envelopes and presents, she noticed something that upset her: “his side of family really did not come through.”

“They were all very fun and excited to celebrate us, but idk (I don’t know) this really bothered me,” she wrote. “His grandmother, 5 couples (cousins), his parents, his siblings didn’t bother to get a card. No gifts, but I know they are all very wealthy (with the exception of his brother).”

She added that many of those relatives had traveled by plane and arranged childcare in order to attend, which she acknowledged was “a big thing too.” Still, she admitted, “I am shocked, honestly.”

The bride clarified that she hadn’t been expecting a present from her husband’s parents, since they had contributed financially to the rehearsal dinner and the band. “But no card?” she asked.

What bothers her most, she said, is the imbalance between what each side of the family contributed. According to her post, her own parents “contributed the majority of the cost of the wedding (38k),” while her husband’s relatives made up “the majority of guests.”

“I just think it’s very rude, and if I didn’t know how wealthy they were I wouldn’t be so bothered,” she wrote, adding that loved ones with far less money “scraped together a gift that they definitely did not have to.”

Commenters chimed in with their own takes in the thread’s replies.

Some suggested that the absence of gifts and cards from her husband’s relatives might simply reflect “his family culture” rather than intentional rudeness.

“If zero people in his family gave gifts, then it seems that it is just his family culture. It is what it is,” one person wrote.

Another commenter added, “This is either an extremely well-coordinated snub (unlikely), or it’s just a cultural difference between your family and his.”

Others urged the bride to let go of her frustration and focus on the fact that his relatives made the effort to show up and celebrate.

“A lot of people took the time to spend a day celebrating you and your love. They were kind and fun. That is their true gift to you. Everything else is gravy,” one Redditor commented.

Another reply was more blunt about the bride’s expectations:

“You should’ve made it clear there was a price for admission,” they wrote.