Bride Is ‘Terrified’ Her Sister Is Going to Humiliate Her at Her Wedding: ‘Genuinely Scared’

A bride-to-be says she’s counting down to her wedding next fall — but anxiety about her sister’s behavior is keeping her up at night.

In a recent Reddit post, the woman shared that she loves her sister, but has spent years on the receiving end of comments disguised as humor. According to the bride, those “jokes” have consistently stung, even when her sister insists they’re harmless.

One remark in particular has left a lasting mark. The bride said she excitedly told her sister some news about her engagement ring early one morning, only for her sister to quip that her fiancé might not actually want to marry her. Though the sister brushed it off as a joke, the bride said it made her cry — and she hasn’t been able to shake the hurt since.

With the wedding approaching, the bride is torn about whether to include her sister in the wedding party. She admitted she’s genuinely worried about giving her any major role, especially a microphone.

“I do not trust her with a speech,” she wrote, saying she’s afraid her sister will try to be funny in a way that embarrasses her in front of guests. The bride explained that she doesn’t want to spend her wedding day tense or on edge, bracing for a public jab.

Her concerns go beyond speeches, too. She’s also nervous her sister might drink too much and become another responsibility during the celebration. The bride worries she’ll end up having to manage her sister instead of enjoying her own wedding.

While the sisters have casually discussed her being part of the bridal party, the bride hasn’t asked her officially. She noted that she served as her sister’s maid of honor in the past, and feels heavy pressure not to “rock the boat” within the family.

Still, she’s scared that including her sister could backfire. She fears her sister might ruin the day with another cutting comment, by drinking excessively, or by pulling attention toward herself — something the bride says has happened before.

In the comments, many readers urged her to trust her instincts and protect her peace. Several encouraged her not to include her sister in the wedding party at all, and to make sure trusted people keep microphones out of her reach during the reception.

Others suggested having a direct conversation ahead of time, making it clear that jokes at the bride’s expense won’t be tolerated — and that crossing that line would have serious consequences for their relationship.

One commenter put it bluntly: if the sister can’t handle boundaries now, it may only get worse later. Another advised the bride to start creating space if her sister continues treating her this way.

For now, the bride is left weighing family expectations against her need to feel safe and joyful on one of the biggest days of her life.