Man Cancels Honeymoon Because His Wife Can’t Afford to Help Pay for It

A man refuses to go on a honeymoon unless his wife helps pay for it.

The man, who got married in March, asked Reddit users on the “Am I the A——” forum if he was wrong for putting his Bali honeymoon on hold because he didn’t want to pay alone.

The 28-year-old told his 28-year-old wife of six months that “no money = no honeymoon.”

For context, he explained that even though they earn about the same salary, they don’t have the same amount of extra money for the honeymoon. After paying their house bills and investments equally, the rest of their money is for “individual use and control.”

The man said he likes to save his money, while his wife “barely saves anything” and instead buys items she finds online.

“I end up saving around $1500 above,” he wrote.

Since they’ve been married for half a year, the couple is “getting impatient” to go on their honeymoon to Bali.

Recently, the man found “a decent deal” and suggested they book the tickets “right away.” His wife agreed but asked him to pay for everything.

“She made a smiley face and asked me to book for both of us, saying she’d pay me back later,” the man said.

In response, he “declined the offer and told her to wait,” because he believes important things like “marriage, honeymoon, travel, kids planning should only be done when you’re financially ready.”

This upset the wife, and she started an argument with him.

“She said to not ruin the plan we fixed and don’t be ‘greedy,’ as memories matter more than money,” he remembered. “It quickly turned into a quarrel, which ended up with her saying stereotypical things like, ‘It’s a shame for husband to not pay for the honeymoon,’ ‘Men have been doing it for ages,’ blah blah blah. It really p—— me off. Currently, we’re not talking to each other.”

Reddit users said both the husband and wife were at fault. They suggested the couple should have discussed finances before getting married, since money problems are a leading cause of marital conflict and divorce.

“ESH (Everyone Sucks Here) for marrying each other without having a meeting of the minds about finances. You hit your first ‘major purchase’ and are arguing already,” one person wrote. They added, “You need to sit with a financial planner and set some goals, and agree on how you’ll get there…together.”

Another Redditor said, “Financial incompatibility is a major reason for divorce. Forget the honeymoon. Get into counseling, couples and financial, and plan for a really nice vacation when you get past this.”