Man Lands ‘Life-Changing’ Job After Years of Financial Hardship. But His Girlfriend Threatens to Break Up if He Accepts

A man reached out to the Reddit community seeking advice after receiving a life-changing job offer that has caused a serious rift in his eight-year relationship.

The new position offers more than double his previous income and could finally help him overcome years of financial instability and mental health struggles — but there’s a catch: it requires working weekends.

“I’ve been in a financial hole for years now and this job would help bring me out of it,” he shared in a now-deleted post, emphasizing how transformative the opportunity could be. “I’ve been depressed for years due to finances. This would be life changing for me.”

The role is a restaurant manager position at a well-known franchise, paying over $60,000 annually with full benefits — something he’s never had before. Despite the obvious advantages, his girlfriend made one firm demand: no weekend work.

“She’d rather have me make $40k a year for now if it means I get weekends off for us to spend together,” he explained. Even with the emotional strain of her ultimatum, he was motivated by the need for financial security and decided to attend the interview.

“Obvi she doesn’t want me having this job because of the weekend thing,” he admitted, adding that she believes he could find a better opportunity that fits a Monday-to-Friday schedule.

But their reality tells a different story. Both in their mid-to-late 20s, the couple recently bought a house together, mainly at her urging, and are now both facing the financial pressures of homeownership.

“She pays most often the mortgage but I pay the electric, water, internet, etc.,” he said. “Do all the cleaning, housework, yard, fixing up the house, etc.”

Despite an uneven financial split, he’s been contributing in every way he can.

The job offer seemed like the solution he had been waiting for. Yet, when he told her he wanted to accept it, her response was swift and severe. “She said we are done if I accept this job,” he revealed.

Her reaction has left him conflicted and uncertain. “She keeps saying I’m being unreasonable and choosing money over her,” he added, torn between securing his financial future and saving their relationship.

After reading through Reddit responses, he began to question his own stance. “Okay after all these comments of her being the a—— I’m starting to feel bad now,” he admitted, revealing the depth of his inner turmoil.

He also acknowledged her past financial support. “She’s always made more money than me and has supported me financially at times more than I’d like to admit,” he said, shedding light on the complex power dynamics involved.

Now, he feels it’s his turn to contribute more. “I just need a better job to help out more,” he wrote, viewing the job offer as a crucial opportunity to contribute equally.

Many commenters rallied around him, encouraging him to prioritize his mental health and future. “Partners are there to lift you up, not hold you down,” one wrote, while another added, “She would rather you be poor. That is not right.”

The man now finds himself at a crossroads, facing a decision that could shape both his career and his relationship.