A man turned to the Reddit community for advice after struggling with his wife’s new friend, who he says has been treating his home as if it were her own. The poster explains that this woman isn’t a longtime companion, but someone his wife has only known for a few months.
“My wife’s new friend is extremely annoying—childish and loud,” he writes. He admits that he could tolerate brief, occasional visits, but the friend has become a constant presence in their home.
According to the husband, she has been showing up nearly every day for hours at a time. “She’s been coming over every day since this month and spends hours, annoying us all the time,” he says, describing her behavior as overwhelming and suffocating.
He emphasizes that his issue isn’t with his wife’s other friends, with whom he gets along well. “I get along well with her friends; they are kind and polite, and they and their husbands have become my friends as well,” he writes, noting that this new friendship feels very different.
The tension peaked during a recent visit when the woman became particularly disruptive. “Yesterday I had enough of her annoying behaviour, so I asked her to keep her voice down,” he explains. Her response, however, only made matters worse.
Instead of adjusting, she reportedly mocked him. “She asks me, ‘why would I do that’ in a mocking tone,” he recalls, prompting him to set firmer boundaries.
He told her directly why her behavior was problematic. “I said because she doesn’t live here and it’s my home and she’s annoying everyone,” he explains, making it clear she needed to respect their space.
He then delivered an ultimatum that escalated the situation. “I asked her to keep it down or get out of my house,” he says, insisting he wasn’t being cruel—just honest.
The woman accused him of rudeness, but he defended his position. “She said I am being rude to her and kicking her out. I said I am not being rude to her; I am being real with her,” he explains, adding that she often behaves as if his house were a hotel.
Things became tense enough that his wife intervened. “She was pissed, and before it escalated, my wife asked her to leave,” he writes, noting that his wife seemed surprised by just how fed up he had become.
Once the situation was addressed, his wife recognized the problem. “My wife said she didn’t know that her friend was annoying us so much and she won’t let her come over anymore,” he shares, leaving him to wonder if his reaction was justified.
Responses from users were quick, with many supporting his decision to set boundaries in his own home.
One commenter wrote, “Some people are incapable of reading the room. They are oblivious to anything other than how wonderfully entertaining they are.” The user added that people like that often need blunt honesty to curb their behavior.
Another agreed, pointing out that he had offered a fair choice. “NTA. She needs to respect your house. If that is a problem for her, the answer was to leave, but you didn’t kick her out; you gave her a choice,” the commenter explained.
While the wife’s new friendship may have begun innocently, the man felt it was necessary to prioritize his family’s comfort over politeness.
