Mom-to-Be Says She Is ‘Tired’ of Every Conversation Being About Her Pregnancy, Wonders If She Should Confront Well-Meaning Friends

A woman says she’s growing frustrated that every conversation with certain friends seems to circle back to her pregnancy — and she’s wondering if she’s wrong for wanting it to stop.

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the Asshole” forum, the 38-year-old explained that she recently became close with a colleague from her home country and the colleague’s husband. But as her pregnancy progressed, she said their repeated comments and questions started to make her feel “uncomfortable.”

According to the woman, the couple frequently brings up her body and emotions, asking things like: “Is that a baby bump?”, “Why aren’t you more excited?”, “Why don’t you want a gender reveal?”, “Is that hormones?”, and even, “Are you happy to be a mom?” She added that they also questioned why she and her husband planned to wait to learn the baby’s gender and why they weren’t doing a DNA test just to find out.

The attention didn’t stop there. On one occasion, she said her friend’s husband joked about making a Halloween decoration that looked like a pumpkin giving birth.

The woman admitted she hasn’t hidden her discomfort. “I have a very expressive face and I usually respond coldly because I am tired of every conversation being about my body and my emotions,” she wrote. Still, she said her husband dismissed her reaction as oversensitivity and suggested it was due to pregnancy hormones. He also felt she was being rude for wanting to stop spending time with the couple.

In the comments, many readers sided with the poster, calling the friends’ behavior “creepy” and “obsessive.” One commenter urged her to set clear boundaries — and to address the way her husband was minimizing her feelings.

Others felt she might be interpreting their intentions too harshly, and suggested she be more direct rather than expecting them to pick up on social cues. One user encouraged her to plainly tell them the constant focus on her pregnancy was making her uncomfortable and to change the subject when it comes up.

Later, the woman posted an update saying she spoke to the couple and told them she wasn’t comfortable with people repeatedly asking about her pregnancy. She also apologized for her facial expressions and for seeming awkward. According to her, the couple hadn’t realized they were crossing a line and thanked her for being honest, explaining they had simply been trying to show support.

“They just wanted to cheer me up,” she concluded, adding that she felt happier after clearing the air.