Pregnant Woman Accused of ‘Ruining’ Thanksgiving by Skipping Dinner Due to Argument with Partner’s Sister

A woman says she and her partner “fully intended” to spend Thanksgiving with his family — until they found out his sister, who “does not like” her, would be hosting the gathering.

In a post on Reddit, she explained that she chose to stay home rather than spend the holiday around someone who had allegedly been speaking badly about her behind her back.

“I decided since I’m about 5 months pregnant and have pretty severe morning sickness that I refuse to travel 15 hours away to be somewhere I’m not wanted, it just seems ridiculous,” she wrote, adding that her partner ultimately agreed not to go either.

She said she reached out to his mother to explain that she felt “uncomfortable” and “unwelcome,” and that they would be celebrating Thanksgiving on their own this year.

When her partner later called his sister to share the decision, the sister said she felt she was “owed an apology for a few reasons.”

The first issue, according to the poster, was that she had unfriended the sister on Facebook. She said she did so because she felt judged and doesn’t really know her well.

The second reason went back to an earlier conflict with her partner’s mother. The poster said the two had “got into a disagreement” after the mom allegedly “made fun of me having a miscarriage,” and claimed that the mother has “never apologized” or offered any kind of explanation.

“Her last reason was because she felt as if I was trying to turn her brother against her?” the woman added. “I didn’t ask where this came from because I assumed based on the other reasons it was probably something ridiculous.”

The poster said she doesn’t necessarily dislike her partner’s sister, but feels uneasy around his family in general. She claimed his mother has repeatedly said she doesn’t like her, has referred to the baby as “another problem in her brothers life,” and refuses to acknowledge the pregnancy at all — behavior she says is very different from how the mom treats her other grandchildren.

She also shared that she’s frustrated at being harshly judged by relatives who barely know her.

Despite all of this, the sister has accused her of “ruining” Thanksgiving by choosing not to attend.

“She just keeps saying ‘so is she going to apologize or are we just ruining thanksgiving?’ But I’m just not sure why I owe her anything or how I’ve ruined thanksgiving by not coming somewhere I was never welcome to begin with,” the poster wrote. “I also feel if I try to explain myself it will just be an argument and I’m not willing to put myself under the stress for somebody like this.”

Commenters urged her to prioritize her own well-being and begin setting clear limits with her partner’s family — especially with a baby on the way.

Many encouraged her to talk with her partner “about defining and setting healthy boundaries, especially once the baby’s born,” noting that the dynamic already seems unhealthy.

“It sounds like your husband’s family is kind of toxic and bullying. And really if your presence or lack there of is enough to be the determining factor on if the holiday is ruined, do you really want to be there to deal with the drama?” one commenter wrote. “Your husband needs to deal with his Mom and sister, but all the explanation you need to provide is that you weren’t up to making the trip.”

Another person added: “A previous miscarriage and a long trip are 2 great reasons to skip Thanksgiving. It sounds like everyone is spoiling for a fight.”

In an update, the woman revealed that the situation has sparked ongoing conflict between her and her partner, causing her to reevaluate the relationship altogether.

“I’ve tried to draw strong boundaries and ask him repeatedly to stop bringing up his family around me or having conversations about me or my daughter to them anymore, he refuses to do so, so unfortunately I may need to reconsider this relationship,” she wrote.