Sister-in-Law Refuses to Let Bride Post Wedding Photos Because Her Young Daughter Is in Them

A woman says her choice to include her young niece as flower girl has unexpectedly complicated how she can share her wedding memories online.

In a post on Reddit’s “Wedding Planning” forum, the newly married bride explained that her sister-in-law doesn’t want any photos of her daughter posted on social media. The issue: because the child was the flower girl, she appears in nearly every shot with the wedding party.

The bride wrote that she’s now unable to post most of her professional photos. According to her, her sister-in-law won’t allow even heavily edited versions, saying she doesn’t want her daughter online “not even with her face blurred or covered.”

Looking back, the bride said she wishes she had known this boundary before the ceremony. If it had been raised earlier, she would have asked the photographer to take separate group photos without the flower girl. But since that didn’t happen, she’s stuck trying to find a workaround after the fact.

She added that she had already tried using an app to remove the child from some images, but the results looked bad. While she understands a parent’s desire to protect a child’s privacy, she said the situation still feels disappointing—especially after spending a significant amount on photography and looking forward to sharing the pictures with friends and family.

She also wondered whether she needed to ask guests, relatives, and even the photographer not to post any images that include the girl.

In the comments, many Redditors urged the bride to talk again with her sister-in-law and reach a middle ground. Several pointed out that if the parent was strongly against any online presence, it should have been discussed before having her daughter in a central role. Others suggested blurring or masking the child as a reasonable compromise, or having the sister-in-law cover the cost of professional editing if she wanted the child removed entirely.

Later, the bride updated her post to say the two of them worked things out. She explained that her sister-in-law initially wanted the girl professionally edited out, but agreed that it wasn’t practical. They settled on a full-body blur for any photos the bride chooses to share publicly.

“It’s all resolved now,” she wrote, adding that while it’s not perfect, the solution lets her post a few key pictures without making the child identifiable.