A woman has turned to Reddit for clarity on proper wedding-gift etiquette after finding a surprising charge on her credit card bill.
Posting in the “Wedding Drama” forum, she explained that a $300 purchase appeared suddenly — and her husband revealed it was a gift for a female co-worker’s upcoming wedding.
The original poster noted that neither she nor her husband is particularly close to the bride-to-be, and they weren’t invited to the ceremony. When she asked why he purchased such a costly gift, he said the co-worker had shared her wedding registry through the company’s Slack channel.
The woman argued that contributing to a wedding you’re not invited to should be minimal, if at all. “Maybe $50 would have been more appropriate — like a ‘have a couple of cocktails on us during your honeymoon’ type of gift,” she wrote, adding that her husband didn’t see a problem.
She also pointed out that when her husband’s team hosted a small office baby celebration for them, the same colleague gave them a modest gift — a small pack of bibs. While she was grateful for it, she wondered if her husband felt pressured to reciprocate more generously.
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Her key question to Redditors: “Are wedding registries normally shared with people who aren’t invited to the wedding?”
In the comments, many criticized the co-worker’s decision to post her registry to colleagues who didn’t make the guest list — calling the move “tacky,” “entitled,” and a “gift grab.” Several questioned whether it was appropriate or even allowed to advertise personal registry links on a company platform.
Others focused on the husband’s choice. “Who sends a gift to a wedding they weren’t invited to?” one commenter asked in disbelief.
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The Redditor later responded to clarify that her husband likely acted without thinking too deeply about expectations. “I think he naively assumed that receiving a registry means you’re supposed to buy something,” she wrote. Still, she admitted she was giving the co-worker some serious side-eye for placing staff in that position in the first place.
