Woman Conflicted After Boyfriend Sleeps with ‘First Love’ While They Were Broken Up — Something He Swore He Would ‘Never’ Do

A Reddit user recently opened up about struggling to fully trust her boyfriend after they rekindled their relationship — only to discover something that left her second-guessing everything.

In a post shared on Aug. 10, the woman asked if she was wrong “for not fully trusting” her boyfriend after learning he had done something he once promised he would “never” do. While the action happened during their breakup, it still shook her confidence in the relationship.

The couple has been together for eight months in total, though they were apart for part of that time. About four months into dating, the boyfriend ended things “due to some personal issues.” According to the woman, their split wasn’t hostile — they simply went no-contact for a while.

“Around a month ago, we decided to try again,” she explained. But during a conversation about their time apart, she discovered that her boyfriend had met up with his ex — whom she described as his “first love” — and slept with her. Learning this, she wrote, left her “absolutely shattered.”

It was especially painful, she said, because she had asked him several times during their relationship if he would ever return to his ex, and he always replied, “definitely not.” She also added that during their break, she didn’t even go on a single date.

Now, she admits she finds it difficult to trust him. “I feel the urge to check his phone constantly (something I’ve never done before),” she wrote, “and I just feel as though I can’t trust him. AITAH [am I the a——] here?”

Many Reddit users weighed in, with most agreeing that while her feelings were valid, her boyfriend technically hadn’t done anything wrong.

“You had broken up, so he has the right to do whatever he wants,” one person said, though they added they understood why the situation was still painful. The woman admitted she could see that perspective but remained frustrated.

She explained that he had broken up with her citing “personal reasons” and uncertainty, yet was still able to sleep with his ex. To her, that showed he may have known more about what he wanted than he let on.

Another commenter pointed out that reconnecting with an ex can feel different than a casual fling. “If it was a fling with a random person you are not in the right to be upset, but going back to an ex [shows] there’s still a connection,” they said.

The original poster agreed, saying that what bothered her most was that he had once promised he would never get back with his ex. “My thoughts exactly!” she replied.

At one point, she even joked she would rather he had “slept with 100 random girls 😂,” though another user countered that such behavior wouldn’t have been much better either.