Woman Debates Not Going to Best Friends Wedding After Boyfriend Isn’t Invited

One woman is wrestling with a tough choice about her best friend’s upcoming wedding.

In a Reddit post, she shared that she and her best friend have been close for seven years. The friend is getting married in January, and under normal circumstances she’d be excited to attend — but she’s deeply hurt that her boyfriend of three years wasn’t invited. According to her, her boyfriend and her friend actually get along very well.

“They did the RSVPs through a website, and all plus-ones come up with the person’s name,” she wrote. “All our other friends that she’s invited, their boyfriends are included in their invite, living together or not. I mentioned him being my plus one before they even made the guest list, and she just kinda awkwardly laughed. It definitely made me uncomfortable.”

She added that this isn’t some casual relationship. “He and I have been together the longest out of everyone, and like I said, they get along very well and view each other as ‘siblings,’” she explained.

The poster also pointed out that other couples who have been together for less than a year received invitations as a pair, while her boyfriend was left out. “Obviously it’s her wedding and what she says goes, but this is my boyfriend of three years and the man I’m going to spend the rest of my life with,” she wrote.

“I don’t feel comfortable being somewhere he’s not welcome,” she continued. “So would I be in the wrong for not going? Or am I overreacting/jumping the gun?”

Since sharing her story, hundreds of commenters have weighed in. Some agreed that her friend’s decision is confusing — especially given how long the couple has been together.

“I don’t understand how she can be your best friend but you can’t just ask her about this and get an answer. Seems odd,” one person wrote.

“Did you ask her? It seems like it could be a glitch in entering the data on the website. If he is deliberately excluded, no, YWNBTA. But you should have a conversation,” another commenter suggested.

Others said that, intentional or not, the snub speaks volumes.

“NTA. If you aren’t even a bridesmaid, then she already told you where you stand. You can send a gift and go enjoy your weekend instead of pretending to be thrilled for her,” one person advised.