Woman Is Shocked Brother-in-Law’s Girlfriend Won’t Help Him Financially Despite Earning 6 Figures

A woman is frustrated that her brother-in-law keeps asking his mom for money, even though his girlfriend earns a six-figure salary.

On Monday, Sept. 1, she shared her story on the UK forum Mumsnet. She explained that her brother-in-law runs his own business, which usually does well. But when payments from clients are delayed, he complains and asks his mom for temporary financial help.

The woman said her brother-in-law has been with his girlfriend, who earns six figures, for two years. They’ve cut back on spending while he is short on money, even though his girlfriend saves “several thousands” each month.

“Over a few glasses of wine on the weekend, I asked why she wasn’t helping her partner out and instead expected MIL to step in,” the woman wrote about the girlfriend. “She said that he can have access to whatever money he wants if they get married.”

The woman said the girlfriend won’t even lend him money until they are married.

“I asked if she would actually marry him, and she said she’d marry him tomorrow if he asked, but he doesn’t want to get married,” the woman continued. “So this is where I am struggling — I don’t think my MIL should have to support him instead of his partner.

“She usually enjoys a nice lifestyle with him, and it seems unreasonable to go without because he’s having a tough few months,” she added. “But equally, she shouldn’t have to support someone if she doesn’t want to.”

Responses to her post surprised the woman. Many argued it was fair for the girlfriend not to give him money if she didn’t want to.

“I can’t believe you asked her. It’s none of your business, and she was right to say no,” one person wrote. “They’re not married, and she’s smart not to bankroll him. She would be even smarter to wait to marry him until he’s financially stable.”

“I think she is right. Good for her sticking to her guns,” another commented. “He won’t put a ring on it, so it’s all her money. If they broke up, what’s the chance of getting her money back? Very slim. Wish more women had the sense of this lady.”

“She’s right! I’d tell my partner to get a second job rather than running to mommy,” another chimed in.

“No one has to support your BIL. If his business isn’t doing well, he should take a loan or give it up,” one more added. “She’s being sensible by keeping their money separate until they marry. If he doesn’t want to marry her, he doesn’t get the security that marriage brings.”