A woman is questioning whether she’s being too sensitive after feeling put down twice by her boyfriend.
According to her post on Mumsnet, the couple officially began calling each other “boyfriend/girlfriend” after four months of dating. She described him as kind, attractive and fun — but said two recent interactions left her doubting their future.
The first incident occurred when she offered to help him study for a qualification related to his job. Instead of appreciating the thought, she says he laughed and replied, “Haha, it’s cute you think you could help.”
She wrote that the comment stung, especially given her background at a prestigious college and landing a competitive graduate role. Even if she didn’t know his industry well, she felt she could have helped in other ways — like making his evening less stressful.
The second moment happened when she made a “little doodle giving a virtual hug” to cheer him up on a tough day. Rather than gratitude, she says he simply replied, “No idea what that says.” She admitted her calligraphy wasn’t perfect, but the dismissal hurt.
“It made me feel a bit stupid for even making the effort,” she explained. Although he later apologized and blamed stress, she can’t stop wondering whether these small jabs reveal something deeper: “It seems way too early for him to be so callous.”
She asked readers whether ending the relationship now would be “dramatic” — or whether these are warning signs she shouldn’t ignore.
The post drew hundreds of responses, with most commenters suggesting she may be reading too much into it.
“You sound very demanding and like you will analyze absolutely everything this guy does and says!” one person wrote. Another added, “You are overthinking this way too much. He sounds fine so far. If you’re going to be so easily upset by him, you should probably let him go.”
Others took a more nuanced stance: “The first instance really pisses me off — the second doesn’t. I’d probably give another chance — but any further signs of demeaning your intelligence, etc., end it.”
