He Wasn’t Allowed to Sleep with His Wife When Visiting Her Parents. So He Set the Same Rule When They Came to Stay

A man turned to Reddit for guidance after a seemingly harmless joke escalated into a tense dispute over sleeping arrangements during his in-laws’ visit.

He explained that his wife’s parents had traveled from Lebanon to stay with them for two weeks. What began as a light, playful moment quickly transformed into an awkward family standoff.

“My wife’s a Lebanese Christian and her family lives in Lebanon,” he shared, noting that when they visited her parents in the past, he and his wife were not permitted to share a bed.

“My father-in-law is still uncomfortable with us having sex so whenever we would visit them she’d sleep in her old bedroom and I’d sleep in one of her brothers’ rooms,” he wrote. Although he was never fully comfortable with the rule, he followed it out of respect.

When his in-laws arrived at his home, he decided to mirror the same boundary. “I told them I’m not comfortable with them sleeping together at my house,” he said. At first, his father-in-law laughed and agreed — but the next morning, he asked to reverse the arrangement.

“He came and asked me to change that and let him sleep with my mother-in-law because it was lonely,” the man explained. “I told him no and he said fine and that he got it.” The disagreement quickly created noticeable tension.

His wife didn’t support his position and felt he was pushing the issue too far. “My wife’s saying that he got my point and now I’m just being petty and childish and that I should just let them sleep together,” he wrote. She also argued that “it’s not like they’re gonna be having sex,” urging him to let the matter go.

The situation left him questioning whether he was being unreasonable or simply applying the same standard his in-laws had enforced on him. Many Reddit users sided with him, saying the boundary was fair.

One commenter wrote, “NTA, but keep it up until they leave. On your next visit, when you are allowed to sleep next to your wife, then the rule gets lifted.”

Another added, “NTA. That was well done. I’ve had to set boundaries on my wife’s parents when they visit.”