Dad Says He’s Been No-Contact with His Daughter for 8 Years. Now He Plans to Leave Her Out of His Will

A father has turned to Reddit for guidance after spending eight painful years estranged from his daughter, unsure whether she should still be included in his will.

In his post, the 64-year-old explained that his 32-year-old daughter cut off all contact with him and the rest of the family after she got married. He said her husband was openly hostile toward them and seemed fixated on being “the most important man in her life,” no matter the cost to her relationship with her family.

The dad wrote that he tried to raise concerns about how her partner was treating them, but the conversation went badly. According to him, his daughter told him to “go f—” himself, blocked the entire family, and excluded them from her wedding.

Even after being shut out, he said he quietly kept tabs on her well-being through a friend who lived nearby. He learned she had two children and was pregnant with a third, but made it clear she didn’t want her parents involved. “I’ve tried going over there a few times and so did my wife… but she kept yelling at us and kicking us out,” he wrote, adding that they eventually stopped trying to visit.

Now, while reviewing his estate plans, he feels stuck on what to do about her inheritance. He shared that he’s currently in good health but wants to “finalise things” and is seriously considering leaving her nothing. “If she doesn’t want me or my family in her life while I’m alive she should not get anything from me when I’m gone,” he wrote, noting that his wife and other children agree.

At the same time, the decision weighs heavily on him. “She’s still my daughter and leaving her absolutely nothing just feels wrong,” he admitted, describing how memories of her childhood and the relationship they once had make it hard to close that door completely. Despite the long estrangement, he still holds on to a small, lingering hope for reconciliation.

Reddit users responded with a mix of empathy and practical advice. One commenter wrote, “NTA, but I would ask your lawyer… what is the proper procedure in disinheriting,” suggesting that leaving a small amount might help avoid future legal disputes.

Another encouraged a more symbolic approach rather than a purely financial one: “NTA — but I’d recommend leaving her a little something… maybe something not of monetary value, but a memento.”