A groom-to-be is rethinking his wedding party after ongoing tensions with his fiancée’s best friend.
A 26-year-old man recently described on Reddit how he’s engaged to Lucie, 27. They’ve been together for three years, engaged for six months, and are planning to marry in May. “She’s the love of my life, and I’m genuinely excited to marry her,” he wrote.
But there’s one major issue: Lucie’s best friend, Tereza, also 27.
From the beginning, he says, Tereza made it obvious she didn’t think he was good enough. She’d make comments like, “Oh, you’re a game developer? That’s… fun. Like a real job or just playing around?” She would also compare him to Lucie’s ex, saying things like, “He was so successful.”
At first, he tried to ignore it, assuming she was just being protective of a longtime friend. But over time, her remarks escalated.
Over the past year, he says Tereza’s passive-aggressive digs turned into outright insults — always brushed off as “jokes,” but frequent enough to hurt. According to him, she’d say things like, “You know I love you both, but Lucie could do SO much better, no offence,” or, “When’s Lucie going to come to her senses?” Sometimes she’d add, “I give it two years max before she realises,” and then wink at Lucie.
Two weeks ago, during a small dinner party at their apartment with about eight guests, Tereza had been drinking and pushed things even further. At one point, she looked him straight in the eye and said, “I’m just waiting for Lucie to wake up and realise she’s wasting her best years. No hard feelings.”
He turned to Lucie, expecting her to step in. Instead, she laughed and brushed it off with, “Oh, that’s just Tereza being Tereza,” and changed the subject.
“No hard feelings? She told me to my face our relationship has an expiration date and my fiancée laughed,” he wrote. “I brought it up after everyone left. Told Lucie it really hurt me and Tereza has been saying this stuff for months.”
According to him, Lucie replied that he was “taking it too seriously,” insisting that Tereza “doesn’t mean it like that” and is “just protective.” He questioned, “Protective of what?? Lucie from marrying me??”
With their wedding only five months away and Tereza set to be maid of honor, he says he no longer wants her in the wedding — or even at the ceremony. He can’t imagine someone who openly predicts their marriage will fail standing right beside Lucie as they exchange vows.
Still, he hasn’t told Lucie this yet, aware that it could lead to a major argument.
“But I also don’t know if I can stand up there knowing Tereza is smirking behind us waiting for it to fail,” he wrote, asking Reddit, “WIBTA for saying she can’t come?”
Since posting, hundreds of commenters have weighed in — and many believe Lucie’s reaction is a big part of the problem.
One person wrote: “The problem here is Lucie. She’s not shut this down at all and when finally asked to she laughed it off. OP, your fiancée laughed at you pointing out that her best friend’s rude comments are hurting your feelings.”
Another commenter added, “You have a fiancée problem that needs to be addressed. She will always allow her friend to steamroll and make fun of you. She’s more concerned [about] her friend’s feelings than yours. It will ALWAYS be like this — you okay with that? NTA but you would be if you continue this engagement.”
