Husband Calls Wife ‘Selfish’ for Being Upset About Medical Procedure Before Holidays — but She Reminded Him to Book It for ‘Months’

Scheduling medical appointments can seem simple — until calendars fill up, the holidays hit, and someone puts it off until the last possible minute.

That’s what happened to one woman who shared her frustration on Reddit after her husband’s routine colonoscopy plans spiraled into a major argument.

Her husband first saw a doctor in September and was advised to schedule a colonoscopy. She said she reminded him in October and again in November, even encouraging him to “try to schedule it before end of year because we hit all insurance and [its] basically free.”

But he didn’t book it until right before the holidays — and the date he chose immediately created conflict. He scheduled the procedure for Dec. 19, 2025, and she reminded him they were supposed to be traveling that day.

“We [are] supposed to be in NE for the holidays. He then said we needed to wait and then after his colonoscopy, we would drive there,” she wrote.

That plan, she said, would leave her driving alone for more than seven hours late in the day — something she’s uncomfortable doing. “Which means I would be driving 7 plus hours by myself in late afternoon and evening,” she explained. “I don’t do well at night. I could do it if in the morning.”

They tried to work out alternatives, but the scheduling problems didn’t go away. She suggested pushing the colonoscopy to the new year, pointing to multiple existing commitments tied to her teaching job, including parents visiting for a project, a party she was leading, and a parent conference after school.

Her husband didn’t want to move it. He argued that doing it before the end of the year would save money because of insurance coverage.

Even after he rescheduled the appointment to two days earlier, another issue came up: he asked her to pick him up around noon. The woman said that wasn’t realistic with her teaching schedule, especially at lunchtime — and since the procedure involved general anesthesia, he needed someone available.

“I also told him I can’t leave that day because I have parents coming in to help with a big project, a party I am leading, and a parent conference after school,” she wrote.

She added that those obligations were set long before he booked the procedure and argued that he could have avoided the situation by checking her schedule before choosing an appointment time.

The conflict escalated when her husband accused her of being “rigid, not flexible, and selfish.”

She pushed back, saying the timing problem was created by his last-minute scheduling — not her refusal to rearrange an already-packed workday. “I wouldn’t have given him a week’s notice to figure it out for something that’s going to require me to take a day off of work,” she wrote. “And it’s not on me if he waited until last minute to get it scheduled.”

In the end, she stood firm and told him to reschedule for after the holidays, even if it meant paying more.

In the comments, many people sided with the woman, arguing that her husband was responsible for managing his own appointment — and for coordinating with her schedule if he expected her to take time off and provide transportation.

“Is he always this disrespectful of your time and your opinion?” one commenter wrote. “He sounds unbearably rude to just flat out take no responsibility for his own procedure and just putting it all on you.”