Man Who Just Broke Up with His Girlfriend of 6 Years Says Ex Still Wants to Spend Christmas with His Family

An active-duty military man says he’s questioning his holiday plans after a recent breakup — and he turned to Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum to ask if he’s wrong for not wanting to spend Christmas with his ex-girlfriend.

In his post, the man explained that he and his ex had been together for six years and had already arranged a Christmas trip to visit his family. But since their split, he no longer wants to take part.

“We’re not married but live together on base with her two kids from a previous relationship,” he wrote, before sharing what led to their breakup.

He said he’d been unhappy for a long time and felt he stayed mostly out of guilt. “I’ve been unhappy for a long time but kept trying to make it work out of guilt and obligation,” he wrote, adding that the attraction had faded and frequent arguments made him realize he didn’t want the future they were heading toward.

According to him, his ex was “devastated” by the breakup — and he believes things got more complicated because they already had plane tickets booked for the holiday.

“Here’s where I might be [the a——]: We had plane tickets to visit my family for Christmas — me, her and the kids,” he wrote, noting that she had already told his mother and her own family about the breakup.

Instead of traveling together anyway, he told his ex that she and her children could still go on the trip — just without him. He said he doesn’t want to do a “family Christmas” with someone he has just ended a long relationship with.

“I’m not doing a family Christmas with my ex,” he wrote. While he acknowledged he feels bad that the breakup could affect the kids’ holiday, he also said he believes his ex’s expectation that they travel together is unreasonable.

He ended his post by asking Redditors directly whether he was wrong for refusing to go.

Most commenters supported him, saying that traveling together so soon after a breakup would likely be tense and unhealthy for everyone involved. Some suggested his ex may be holding onto hope, while others said he was handling things fairly — especially since he wasn’t trying to stop her and the kids from taking the trip if they still wanted to.