Son Sends Parents Money Every Month to Help Pay Their Mortgage. Then They Get Upset When He Asks to Be on the Deed

A man says his parents labeled him “entitled” after he asked to be added to the deed of their home — a property he has been helping pay for over the past four years.

Sharing his story on Reddit, he explained that his parents purchased the home about a decade ago but later faced serious financial trouble.

“They were behind on their mortgage and close to losing the house,” he wrote. Around that same time, he secured a stable job and stepped in to help cover the payments.

What began as a temporary arrangement stretched far beyond his initial plan. “At first I told myself it would just be for a few months. That turned into a year,” he said. “And now, it’s been almost four years of me sending money every month to keep them afloat. I don’t live in the house. I never have.”

While renting his own place, he continued to help his parents pay down their mortgage. Recently, however, he told them he would need to cut back so he could save for a home of his own.

His parents asked him to continue helping for “a little longer,” saying they couldn’t manage without his support. In response, he said he would be willing — but only if his name was added to the deed.

“I didn’t say I wanted to sell it or kick them out,” he explained. “Just that I’d feel better having some kind of legal tie to something I’ve been financially responsible for.”

That request sparked conflict. His mother accused him of “trying to steal the house,” while his father said he was acting “entitled.” The man maintains that he only wants to protect himself in case something happens.

“I feel bad because I do want to help them, but at the same time, I’m 29 and spending hundreds a month on something I don’t even benefit from,” he wrote, asking if he was wrong.

Many commenters sided with him, urging him to stop payments unless he’s legally recognized as part owner. “It is really unreasonable for you to be paying off someone else’s mortgage when you haven’t been able to save to get your own place. Four years is too long,” one person wrote.

Another advised, “Please draft up a ledger showing the dates and amounts you have sent in for the mortgage. Are you paying it directly to the bank, or are you sending it to your parents for them to put towards the mortgage? At this point, you have given them notice. You can cut them off now. The only people acting entitled here are your parents.”