Woman Called ‘Selfish’ After She Won’t Let Mom, Stepdad and Siblings Stay in Her College Apartment

A woman turned to the Reddit community seeking advice after refusing to let her family stay in her apartment while her roommates were away.

In a post on the popular AITA subreddit, the 20-year-old college student wondered if she was in the wrong for not offering up her living space.

“I’m (20f) in college and I rent an apartment with two of my friends (20f) who are in a relationship,” she explained, describing their setup. “So our apartment is two bedrooms and it works for us.”

Her roommates recently told her they’d be heading home to visit family for “a few weeks” and said she could have people over while they were gone.

When her mom found out the apartment would be mostly empty, she immediately asked if she could come stay there with her husband and the poster’s two half-siblings. However, the woman felt uneasy about having her family crowd the small space.

“I told mom there wasn’t enough space for everyone and she said I’m used to sharing with my half siblings and could do it again,” she shared, which brought back difficult memories of her childhood living situation.

Growing up, she had to share a bedroom with her half-siblings, who are 11 and 13 years younger than her. “We only had a two bedroom house and mom said it wasn’t a priority to get me a new room,” she recalled. “I hated it.”

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Part of the reason she avoids going home is because she’d still be expected to share a room with the kids. “That drives my mom crazy so she said they can come to stay since I won’t,” she wrote. “I told her it doesn’t take care of the sharing a room problem.”

Even with her roommates away, she wasn’t comfortable squeezing her family into the apartment, especially since the living situation hadn’t changed from her childhood. “She said it’s no big deal and I said it is and it always was, she just never cared.”

Her mother accused her of being “selfish,” insisting the family was making an effort by visiting and “taking time out of their summer to come see me.”

Despite the pressure, she stood her ground and suggested her family consider other options. “I told them they should find an Airbnb if they want to visit but mom said no,” she said.

Her stepfather added that since she “benefitted from them,” the least she could do was provide free accommodation.

The topic has been a source of ongoing tension for weeks, with no resolution in sight.

Her mom appealed emotionally, saying the younger siblings miss her and don’t understand why she doesn’t come home. “She told me she misses her first baby and can’t understand me pulling away like I have,” the woman shared.

For her, it all comes down to how she felt growing up. “There’s just no way I want to share with two kids and one of them is my half brother which always made it more awkward to me,” she said.

Feeling guilt and family pressure, she reached out to Reddit to see if she was being unreasonable.