Woman ‘Embarrassed by Friend’s Weight,’ Says She Wears ‘Tiniest Bikinis Possible’ and Revealing Clothes on Vacation

A woman has found herself uncomfortable with her friend’s choice of clothing during their shared vacation — and she’s unsure whether to say something or stay silent.

She shared her dilemma on the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet, where users often seek advice about personal and social situations.

In her post, titled “I’m embarrassed by my friend’s weight,” the woman explained that both she and her friend are in their 30s and are currently traveling abroad together for a “much-needed” break.

“The issue is my friend is really scantily dressed,” she wrote, noting that her friend herself has described being overweight.

“I’m not skinny myself,” she added. “So it’s not a jab. But I do think I dress for the figure I have — nice summer dresses, midi dresses.”

She went on to say that while her friend normally dresses “lovely,” things have been different on this trip. “On this holiday she’s wearing barely anything — the tiniest bikinis possible. Even her dresses are cropped so her butt is really out, [and her] belly is out, [too].”

The woman added that her friend tends to be loud and attracts attention. “I can see people looking at us in the street,” she said. She also mentioned that although her friend often complains about her weight, “she does not stop eating.”

“I really don’t know why it’s winding me up so much,” she admitted. “I feel horrible for even thinking this way. I think I just need to bite my tongue and get through the next four days.” She explained that their friendship usually revolves around casual meetups — “shopping for a day, grabbing a meal or coffee.”

Responses to her post were mixed.

One commenter said, “Fair enough being annoyed about inappropriate clothing and people looking at you because she’s being loud (although you must have known this before booking the holiday), but YABU [you are being unreasonable] about her weight and what she eats.”

Another added, “As long as you are dressed how you feel is appropriate, then how your friend dresses is not your concern. If she’s comfortable, that should be enough.”

Some users sympathized with the woman’s frustration but still encouraged restraint. “It’s really hard to go on holiday with a friend. Everything they do starts to wind you up. If it wasn’t this, it’d be something else,” one person wrote. Another advised, “Don’t say anything to her about it. You’ll regret it after the holiday.”

A final commenter offered perspective: “It’s normal to have darker feelings like these about friends sometimes. The important thing is not to act on them — and it sounds like you aren’t.”