Woman Is Criticized by Her Mother for ‘Talking Business’ During Sister’s Wedding

A young woman is wondering if she crossed a line by discussing work at her sister’s wedding — after her mom told her she should’ve been focusing on celebrating instead.

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, the bride’s 18-year-old younger sister explained that her mother grew upset during the reception when she noticed her chatting with their uncle about a potential job opportunity.

The teen said she was eating wedding cake when her uncle sat beside her and asked how her first year of college was going. He seemed especially interested in the fact that she’d tested out of an English class thanks to strong scores — and, impressed, he floated a suggestion: she should consider becoming his new assistant.

According to the post, his previous assistant recently quit, and the role would involve translating documents and coordinating with overseas suppliers.

“I listened to him describe the job and asked a few questions for a while until my mom came over and asked what we were talking about. When she found out, she got upset,” the bride’s sister recalled. “She said to me, ‘It’s your sister’s wedding. You should be celebrating with everyone else.’”

She said she took the hint and headed to the dance floor, but she could tell her mother remained annoyed.

In the comments, most users sided with the younger sister, voting NTA (Not the A——). Many noted that talking briefly about a job — especially when approached by someone else — didn’t seem like an attempt to hijack the event, and sounded more like a quick, polite exchange.

“Policing conversation topics is such a petty, childish thing to do. Imagine getting upset over what other people are talking about,” one commenter wrote.

Another person echoed the same sentiment, arguing that her mother was being overly controlling: “Mom is overly controlling. That’s what people do at social functions … have conversation that interests them. Your mom does not get to dictate what the conversation is. She should have been less worried about telling you what to do and more concerned with doing what makes her happy. But if dictating your every action is what makes her happy, then you’re in trouble.”

Several commenters also focused on the practical upside: they praised the teen’s language skills, said the experience could be valuable, and encouraged her to follow up with her uncle if she’s interested — calling it a smart way to build her résumé early.