Man Spits in Girlfriend’s Food After She Gets Up to Grab Napkins, Then Claims It Was Just a ‘Joke’

A woman is asking if she’s wrong for feeling “grossed out” after her boyfriend spat in her food as a “joke.”

On Reddit, the 25-year-old explained that she and her 27-year-old boyfriend were eating takeout when she “got up to grab napkins.” When she returned, he “smirked and said, ‘Don’t get mad.’”

He admitted that he had spat in her food while she was gone, but called it a harmless prank.

“He said it was a joke and he wanted to see if I’d notice. I immediately lost my appetite and threw the food away,” she shared.

However, he “got annoyed” and told her she was being “too sensitive,” claiming it was harmless since they kiss and “swap spit” anyway.

She explained that it was “completely different” and that she felt “disrespected,” but he didn’t back down.

“He says I’m overreacting and should ‘lighten up.’ I honestly feel grossed out and violated by it,” she wrote, asking other Redditors for their opinions.

People in the comments quickly pointed out that this behavior was disrespectful. They warned that if she lets it slide, he might do it again—or worse.

“Honestly, I’m really concerned for you that you need to ask Reddit if this is okay. This is obviously not okay,” one person wrote. “Do you want to be treated nicely in your relationships? Then leave. He doesn’t get it. You can’t explain something to someone who doesn’t respect you or your feelings.”

“Do you want to continue to be treated like this? Then stay. He isn’t changing. He must be gaslighting you regularly for you to even question things. Dump him. Block him. He does not like you.”

“For 27? That’s frat-boy immaturity levels. I would definitely take him blaming you for not going along with it as a major red flag,” another person commented.

“This was a test to see what you’ll tolerate. Absolutely do not tolerate this,” a third person added. “Dump him and be clear about why. He might change for his next girlfriend, but if you stay, he’ll do this again.”