Woman Calls Out Friend for Constant Restaurant Complaints: ‘You Always Do This’ 

A young woman turned to Reddit for advice after clashing with her friend over constant complaints during restaurant visits.

The 23-year-old poster shared her story on the “Am I the A–hole” subreddit, asking if she was wrong to confront her friend about her behavior.

She explained that she and her friend, also 23, have been close for about five years. But dining out has become a recurring source of tension because her friend frequently complains about service.

“The thing is — we have very rarely had to wait an unreasonable amount of time,” she wrote. “If the server isn’t at our table in 0.3 seconds, she’ll say, ‘Oh my god what the hell is taking so long?’ or ‘Where the f— is our server at??’ or ‘Why is our food taking so long?’ when it’s only been a few minutes.”

According to her, only one situation in their friendship actually justified frustration over slow service.

While her friend is never openly rude to waitstaff, aside from sometimes forgetting to say “thank you,” the poster noted that she still makes at least one negative comment at nearly every restaurant they visit.

In one recent incident, they went out for breakfast and her friend quickly questioned where the server was, even though they had just sat down.

“I kinda got mad at her and said, ‘You always do this at every restaurant we go to and you need to relax. We’ve hardly been waiting. They’re doing the best they can,’ ” she recalled.

Her friend snapped back, yelling that it “wasn’t that big of a f—ing deal.”

Reddit users overwhelmingly assured the poster she was “NTA” (Not the A—hole).

One commenter suggested she stop going out to eat with this friend altogether.
“Be honest and tell her you hate her complaining. Friendships tend to run their course. Don’t let her bad behavior ruin something that should be a pleasant experience. Let her know it’s unacceptable,” the user advised.

The poster admitted that the constant negativity has made her anxious: “It’s to the point where every time we go I get anxious because I think if the restaurant is even a little slow she’s going to lose it.”

Another user chimed in: “NTA … sounds like your friend should not eat at sit-down restaurants and maybe consider the drive-thru, convenience store, or buffets.”

Her response? “She complains at drive thrus too from time to time…lol.”