Woman Is ‘So Done’ with Mother-in-Law After ‘Constant Boundary Stomping’: ‘It Began When I Got Pregnant’

A woman says her once-close bond with her mother-in-law has completely unraveled — and it all started during her pregnancy.

Sharing her story on Reddit, she explained:

“I used to love spending time with her. It was like having a bonus mom. We’d hang out, grab coffee, call or text every day. Nowadays, I just feel annoyed when her number pops up or when she comes over.”

According to the post, things shifted as soon as she became pregnant. The tension began when her mother-in-law purchased furniture for the baby without waiting for her approval, despite being asked to hold off for a few days so the couple could review the items together — something they had always done in the past.

Instead, the mother-in-law went ahead, then made her feel guilty for not being thrilled with the surprise.

“She also tried convincing us she spent a week researching it all, for her dear grandson deserves only the best,” the woman wrote. “It was only a few months later, when we told her parts of it were missing, that she admitted she never even saw the furniture prior to buying it — she just grabbed it at the store because it was on discount.”

Once her son was born, the woman says a “year of constant boundary stomping” followed.

“She constantly gives unsolicited advice,” she continued. “She thinks her way of doing things must be the only correct way, as if nothing has changed in the past 30 years since she had a baby. If I point out that certain things have changed, she gets offended and defensive, as if I insulted her parenting choices by not blindly following her word.”

The breaking point came when her mother-in-law tried to enroll her grandson in a childcare program without consulting either parent.

While the older woman eventually apologized, she later dismissed the incident, leaving the new mom feeling “so done” with the relationship.

Commenters on Reddit have largely sided with the poster, encouraging her to protect her boundaries.

“I can’t believe anyone would be that mental to send private documents and sign a grandchild up for childcare. Firstly, why does she have access? Secondly, doesn’t the school check who the legal guardians are? That’s pure insanity. I hope you withdrew the fake application,” one user wrote.

Another advised: “You need to have a serious conversation with [your husband] and make it clear that under no circumstances should his mom be around the baby until she changes her behavior or agrees to respect your boundaries. You can’t control her, but you can control how you respond — and it starts with drawing a hard line.”